Calvert Stein was just 9 years old when his father decided to move his family from Newcastle, England to the United States to seek a better life and better opportunities for his children.   Passage on a ship had been booked but, because of the departure date, their landlord demanded two month’s rent instead of the one month they had been expecting to pay.  Stein’s father returned to the booking agent and booked passage on a ship leaving earlier to avoid paying the extra month’s rent.  Little Calvert Stein was very disappointed, because he had been looking forward to steaming across the ocean on the maiden voyage of the world’s biggest ocean liner, the Titanic.  His disappointment soon turned to joy and relief when his family heard the tragic news of the fate of the great, ship.    Stein grew up to become a famous psychiatrist thanks to that one disappointing event.

Into each of our lives disappointments come and, unlike in Stein’s case, we are not always able to account for the reason. 

American moral and social philosopher, Eric Hoffer once said, “Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy - the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.”  Indeed, we humans do tend to go all out in focusing our emotional energy into whatever our dream of the moment might be; then, when we don’t get that job, that car, that house, or whatever our heart was set on, we are crushed and devastated.

The child of God has to face many disappointments in life.  After all, as the well-worn old saying goes, God did not promise us a bed of roses, nor did He promise to grant our every wish.  God is not a genie in a bottle existing to serve us; instead we are called to be His servants and the servants of humanity.   
Where can we turn for comfort when disappointment deals us a crushing blow?  As Christians,  we can turn to God's holy word for reassurance that, although things do not always turn out the way we want them to, they always turn out for the best.  Romans 8:28 says:  And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Above all else, we need to seek God's perfect will in every situation, and to trust Him to guide and direct our paths..  Jesus taught His disciples to pray Thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.  Most of us have heard this and repeated it countless times in "The Lord's Prayer," but do we truly mean it?  Do we truly understand what we are saying?  In the Garden of Gethsemane, as Jesus struggled with the horror of His imminent crucifixion, He begged the Father to remove that bitter cup from Him; but He humbly added, nevertheless, not my will but thine be done (Luke 22:42).  Jesus surrendered His will to the will of the Father as the perfect example of obedience and faith. 

God always has our ultimate best in mind.  He alone can see what lies beyond the bend to the effect and result of each of our choices, our actions and all the events that touch our lives.  Newton's law of  physics teaches us that "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction", and that reaction might impact dozens of lives, not just our own.  God knows what will happen in the future if a certain prayer is granted, or if that dream we place so much importance on really comes true. 

The loss of a loved one, financial difficulties, failed marriages, health problems, career failures, all these are among the most devastating disappointments, but if our trust is in the Lord and we cling to His promise that He will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5), then we can take comfort in knowing that everything is just as it should be.  With our limited vision, we mortals can see only the present, but God sees the past, present and future and He wants only what's best for us in the long run.

Yes, there will be disappointments, but if we put our trust and faith in God, we can rest assured that things are working together for our good and ultimately, everything will turn out o.k. 


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